When you read the content of this particular blog, you might ask yourself, why is the title, “bring yourself to the party” when it has nothing to do with “partying?” Well, I had to get your attention didn’t I? This is about public speaking and you!
Many are so comfortable with their small groups and the familiar, that when asked to go “public”; in other words, speak before an audience of strangers, they clam up. Fear and panic grabs them by the throat and they go to that place of shaking the head from side to side, putting the left or right arm straight out in from of them and back away while their mouth repeats the same words over and over again, no, no, naw, no way, not me…..
Sound familiar? Well let me attempt to shed some light on this subject for you, so that the next time you are asked to put your beautiful self before a group to share something precious and interesting, you will not say NO, but stand up and deliver. One of the major roadblocks for many has been a lack of “confidence”. Some people are surefooted and well adjusted in their own crowd, regardless of how small, because they believe they are accepted, warts and all. So what, if what they have to say doesn’t come across exactly the way they meant it to, its no big deal, these are my friends. They know me I know them, its okay. So all I have to do is show up at the “party” and be myself!
Hey, guess what? That’s all you have to do when you get the opportunity to speak to a group of people you don’t know, just bring yourself to the equation. There is only one of you. Nobody in this world is exactly like you. You have a presence that is uniquely your own. And according to research, at least 5 people in your immediate circle are watching you all the time, when you come into a group of strangers, at least 5 or more will hear what you have to say. Look over the heads of the crowd and be yourself. Yes, just be you. You are no lightweight in the area in which you have been called to speak, otherwise, the person who asked you do this would not have. They obviously saw and heard something that they believed others could benefit from. Now that you have been given the opportunity, you need to grab it, be grateful for it, take a deep breath and walk up to that podium as YOURSELF and give them the best of YOU. Somebody will hear, somebody will benefit, and you will have made a difference by not running away from the new “party” but by being an active participant, in this brand new location. It’s a party, you’ve been invited, you have accepted the invitation, now enjoy it with your new friends.